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[How I met my sex friends]

~ Sex friends and dating sites~

I was asked about how I met my sex friends, so I'll tell you how I met them as much as I can.
-First of all, in the early days, I would meet middle-aged women (the youngest was 35 and the oldest was 62) who lived alone at a slot machine parlor and become friends with them, and then I would persuade them to become sex friends.
Unfortunately, it was a long time ago, so I didn't record the act.
-Otherwise, for a middle-aged guy who isn't even good-looking, the main way to get sex friends is through dating sites.
In the beginning, I didn't have regular sex friends, but I did meet a few housewives and single women for one-night stands.
I met a 51-year-old married woman on a dating site and we became sex friends and have been dating for almost three years now.
At first, the 51-year-old married woman saw my profile and sent me an email, but since we were in a somewhat long-distance relationship, we exchanged email addresses and exchanged daily emails, and it was a month later that we met for the first time and went to a hotel.
When we actually met, we liked each other, so we became sex friends and our relationship continued to this day.

~ Sex industry experience and first sex friend ~
(dating period 1995-2000)
This is a story about my sex industry experience in 1990 and the first time I picked up an amateur woman in her 50s at a slot machine parlor.

At that time, I often went on business trips to other prefectures, and I would travel alone by car for 2-3 nights about once a month.

On those nights, as a perverted man, I naturally looked forward to having fun at local sex industry establishments, and enjoyed all kinds of sex industry, from escort services to real sex salons, real sex massages, hotel call girls, brothels, and streetwalkers.
At that time, in rural areas, you could have sex at a Erotic Massage for $100-150, and at other sex industry establishments for $50-100.
I was once nominated for a live sex show at a strip theater, and had a real sex experience while being watched by many people on a rotating stage.
The stripper I was with was a curvy woman with a tattoo on her thigh, but she gently gave me a blowjob to cheer me up even though I was nervous and my penis was limp, and I was able to finish it without any problems.
I got to have sex with her for the $15 admission fee to the strip theater, which was the cheapest price ever (lol).
Also, in those days there were small rooms behind the strip theaters, and some of them offered the exceptional service of having sex with foreign dancers (mostly young girls from Thailand and Russia), who were common at the time, for an additional $50. It was a good time for perverted men, and there were still vestiges of the old days.

As I continued to have one-night stands with professional women in the sex industry, I also became interested in amateur women, and tried to pretend to pick up girls in the downtown area and to use telephone clubs, but it didn't work out at all, so I gave up on picking up amateurs.
Slot machines were in their heyday at the time, and when I finished work on a business trip in the evening, I would go to a slot machine in the downtown area near my hotel, and if I won, I'd go to a sex salon, and if I lost, I'd eat dinner and go to sleep. One day, while I was winning at the slots, I suddenly noticed a middle-aged woman wandering around, looking bored and doing nothing.
Thinking that she might be killing time after losing at the slots, I sat next to her as she was sitting on a chair in the juice section drinking coffee, and casually asked her, "Did you not win today?" She replied, "Yes," and we started a conversation. I learned that her husband had died 10 years ago, and her only son had married and moved out and was working in a distant province, that she lived alone in an apartment in the city, and that she came here every day to kill time after finishing her part-time job in the morning.
She must have been lonely and had no one to talk to, so she told me a lot of things.
She was a lot older than me, of medium build and seemingly plain, but as I listened to her story I became interested in her and told her that I was a businessman from another region who was on a business trip and staying overnight, and I said, "This is fate, I won at the slots, and I'm lonely eating dinner alone, so I'll treat you, so how about joining us?" She said yes.
We took her in the car and while we were eating I suggested, "If you live alone, can I stay over tonight? That way I can save on hotel fees, and I'll give the money to you as lodging." After thinking about it for a while, she said yes.
After that, we drove to her apartment and she offered me a bath, and when I got out there were two sets of bedding laid out.
After I got into bed and she turned off the lights, I got into her bed from the side and gently embraced her, and whether she was prepared or just hoping, we had sex right away.
It was the first time she had sex since her husband died 10 years ago. Since she was much older than me, I felt a sense of guilt as if I was doing it with my mother.She's already in menopause so we always had sex raw and came inside her.
I stayed with this woman on business trips and had sex with her several times a year, until she turned 62 and started living with her son. Towards the end, our relationship had become like that of a local wife.

(Addendum)
At first, I gave her about $50 for lodging, which was the price of a local business hotel at the time, but eventually She stopped accepting it.
When I asked her why she accepted it at first, she said, "I wanted an excuse for myself to bring a young man into my house."
Once a comfortable relationship between man and woman is established, it seems that such an excuse is no longer necessary, and knowing this female psychology was very helpful when I later tried to find a sex friend on a dating site.

~ Women of my memories ~

(Dating period 2001-2005)
This is part 2 of my memories of picking up women at slot parlors.

Another memorable person was a single mother I met in another local city. She was in her late 30s to 40s (she called herself 35), had a 3-year-old child, had brightly colored permed hair, and as shown in the picture above was quite voluptuous.
I met her at a slot parlor late in the evening, and I was somehow intrigued by her bored appearance as she smoked a cigarette, so I talked to her.
She lived in her own apartment with her toddler, so she never let me stay over, but I treated her to dinner and then we went to a hotel, and I was able to pick her up.
At that time, many of the cheap hotels in the countryside allowed call girls and others to come and go freely, so I would always invite her to my hotel room and have sex with her.
She divorced due to her husband's domestic violence and was raising her child alone, and she said that the only entertainment she had after finishing her part-time day job was to go to the pachinko parlor before going to work in the nightlife industry.
She had learned her lesson from selfish men, but she accepted the invitation because he looked like a businessman and kind.
We exchanged cell phone email addresses, and from then on, we started to contact each other before going on business trips to those places. We always had dinner together, went to a hotel for sex, and I gave her souvenirs (sweets and toys) for our children, and then she went to work at night.
Since we worked at night, we didn't know what would happen, so I took the pill and we always had raw sex with creampies.
Unlike my first sex friend, who was a modest woman in her 50s, this woman had a bright and carefree personality, and although she was basically passive in sex, she was not shy and was the type to respond positively to anything.
She also actively wanted to be photographed, and we often took nude photos and pretended to have sex with her using the digital cameras that were just coming out at the time.
After a few years of this relationship, due to financial issues and the future of her children, she moved back to her parents and older sister's hometown in the countryside, and our relationship ended.

(Addendum)
A few days after she returned to her parents' home and our relationship ended, I received a text message from her saying, "I'm glad I met you. I've been happy for the past four years since I met you," and I lost contact with her after that....

Current situation

After that, I met with the 51-year-old married woman about once every six months, but I lost my libido after my period started, and I was still struggling with both my family and work, so we finally broke up.

I can no longer meet with the 35-year-old married woman because her husband started working from home full time. I also deleted her email address and we are no longer connected.

I currently have two sex friends, and I meet with a 44-year-old single mother once a year and a 38-year-old single mother once every 1-2 months.

Wow thats anazing. Am still reading through all your stories during my free time